Re: Big Bad Momma's comment: "you can't and shouldn't have to sugar coat your reply they should be mature enough to respect a honest answer"
For what my opinion is worth, since I'm neither an old hand nor a newbie, I think the above comment is quite on target. The key word in Lisa's introductory remarks for this forum is respect
. And while tactful
are great, I agree that sugar-coating isn't necessary.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and make two observations. First, it seems that many of the new members aren't respecting the old hands' time by reading Lisa's site (and why not also go to the library/bookstore? -do a search on this site for previous discussions?).
Second, I'm sensing that some of the old hands are feeling burnt-out
lately, judging from some of the posts. Burn-out is common in the helping professions when people feel overwhelmed, frustrated from constant repetition, and have very little sense of accomplishment ("I'm tired and angry and underappreciated and I'm not making a difference!"). From what I've observed lately, tempers seem frayed and the repetitiveness is, understandably, a real source of irritation.
So -- do I have any constructive suggestions, you say? Well, perhaps some members who have spent many hours lately helping (and you know who you are
you wonderful people) could take a break from the posts that start out "Help!" Sooner or later someone
will respond with a post like, "Welcome & please read Lisa's info on..."
The caring and helpfulness of the old hands is a very, very valuable thing and perhaps it needs a mini-vacation once in a while to sustain itself!
As Big Bad Momma said, "we're here to help each other take the best care of our birds as possible," but ultimately the bird's owner
(or his/her parents) must make the decisions (clip wings or not, take to vet or not, feed pellets or seeds, take outside or not, breed or not, etc.)
So --- kisses from Pudgie to all the helpful people!