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#215759 - 09/20/07 02:49 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: Carl]
LoRaXspeek4keets Offline
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victor--whatever, man. i don't feel like arguing with you--obviously you're just invested in being silly. i'm looking to have a serious discussion.

Carl--I don't have a problem with people using 'girlfriend' in their speech no matter what their color is. I just brought up the point of the camp counselor because he was clearly operating under some preconceived notions which rose out of stereotypes. The step that I didn't take was to say that therefore nobody but black people should use the term 'girlfriend.' I was just using that example of someone who clearly thought that every black person spoke and acted in a different way. You diplomacy is appreciated smile
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#215760 - 09/20/07 02:52 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: LoRaXspeek4keets]
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Originally Posted By: LoRaXspeek4keets
...Funny how she's 'nice' and 'intelligent' because she disagrees with me, but when I bring up a valid point, I'm just angry.


Actually - you didn't bring up a valid point - your point wasn't valid at all, which is why I took issue with it.
Through all these posts, I can't really find many people who agree with you about the fundamental premise that casual use of the term "ghetto" is inherently offensive. Shall we take a poll? That is the only topic I am interested in debating with you. The rest is smoke and mirrors on your part.

And by the way, my nurse (and friend) is nice and intelligent because that is inheritantly who she is. Has nothing to do with you and your lack of valid points. Frankly your assessment of her as my token black acquaintance is pretty offensive if you ask me. I would never categorize her as that - what gives you the right?

And once again - if you look back - you will see that I have never called you an Angry Black Woman (ABW). You brought up the "angry" thing, and you have since then fixated on it, and made it an issue all itself - but the vast majority of the ABW comments come from you. But go on... feel free to continue accusing me of whatever you like. If you want to call me a racist and a sexist - go for it. It is so far fetched from where I am that it is a joke.


Edited by victor (09/20/07 03:04 AM)

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#215769 - 09/20/07 03:39 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: Carl]
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Lora:

You are very intelligent and well spoken. I think that if you are this amazing at 19...what the hell are you going to be like @ 30?!! Wow!!

You are a girl busting out, educating and improving yourself. I hope my little daughter has half of the fire you do at your age!

Keep it up!

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#215770 - 09/20/07 03:41 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: LoRaXspeek4keets]
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Originally Posted By: LoRaXspeek4keets
...every time you decide to counter my argument by essentially labeling me an 'angry black woman' (something i've dealt with my entire life), it just goes to show that you're avoiding actually having a conversation with me by writing me off instead.


Just for the record for all to see -
The above quote is the FIRST reference to being angry or being an "Angry Black Woman" ... and it came from Lora.
Not me. Not Janimal. Not Capt'n. Somehow the whole myth that the white guys were asserting that Lora is a chronically ABW got perpetuated through this thread - yet there is no basis for that assertion.
I have debated Lora like I debate anybody .. I look at the merits of their argument and then I agree or I disagree or I don't really care. If I don't agree, then I will counter strongly. And I should be allowed to debate without fear of being accused of being racist, sexist, etc, simply because I disagree with a female person of color. Lora said it herself - she has dealt with the ABW label her whole life. Yet I have never previously been accused of labeling anybody as an ABW. I think that deserves some consideration before anybody decides to send me to the gallows for a crime I did not commit.

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#215773 - 09/20/07 03:50 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: victor]
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Dig in there man! But I don't know what it is that you're winning!
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#215774 - 09/20/07 03:59 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: Argyll]
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Originally Posted By: Argyll
Dig in there man! But I don't know what it is that you're winning!


Dude - when somebody calls you demeaning, insensitive, insinuates racisim, insinuates sexism -
I think that I deserve a chance to fight those accusations and just maybe "win" the battle to prove that I am not any of those things.

Furthermore - I'm not in the forum to agree with every single person and I will disagree when I disagree.
This whole lousy discussion was about the use of the word "ghetto" and I don't think I ever sought to "win" that argument - but I did try to demonstrate that use of the word "ghetto" by "non-ghetto" people is not necessarily derogatory, insulting, insensitive, and whatever else.

If I made my points re: "ghetto" and I can somehow prove that I am not all the things Lora thinks I am - then I'll have won whatever imaginary battle there was to wage.

I'm not gonna go thru life saying "You go Girl" to every single person who posts (or "you go guy" either). Knock yourself out.

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#215782 - 09/20/07 04:53 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: victor]
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I'll say it! "Lora...you go girl...all the way"
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#215786 - 09/20/07 06:50 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: Argyll]
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Sal: Thanks! I always find your comments interesting, especially on this thread -- you have a perspective that most of us don't have.

PDM: Thanks for the links, especially the Northwestern prof.'s journal article that's in response to William Julius Wilson. (If I recall correctly, he's a highly esteemed and very controversial sociologist at Harvard who is African-American.) If one wants to pursue research about race & urban policy, he's the one to read, and I'm sure Pattillo's article is causing a stir!

Victor: First, I'm the main person who referred to some of your and Janimal's remarks as sexist, so please vent your spleen at me rather than Lora. Second, I'm trying to understand the tone (for lack of a better word) in many of your posts here. My intent is not to insult you, and I've read many a post of yours that has struck me as wise and witty. In some comments here, though, there's a sense of defensiveness and possibly rage, and others are, frankly, patronizing. I realize that you are older than Lora, and perhaps that has something to do with it?

Then there's the following that you wrote on page two of this thread: "If you sincerely want to end discrimination - IMHO - the way to end discrimination is to go out and be the best person you can be and earn the respect of every person you encounter ... one person at a time." Granted, you did write "IMHO" and I do think your suggestion is a good one. At the same time, though, it has the faint odor of "blaming the victim" -- it shifts responsibility from the oppressors to the individuals who are oppressed, no?

Melissa: Good for you for "hanging in there" on this thread, in spite of your age! (And speaking of patronizing --yipes! frown ) I truly don't mean that insultingly at all; I'm 48 years old and have been dazzled by some of the twists and turns of this topic!

Lastly, I don't see this forum as a court of law, a doctoral dissertation defense, or a senate/parliament hearing, where one must cite "chapter and verse" of your sources or defend each and every premise of each and every argument, with witnesses and testimonials and depositions from all! I'm not saying people should write things with no basis in fact-- "four out of five Martians say budgies run the government!" --and one should be reasonably able to defend one's claims. I just think that we should be able to state our opinions without being treated with hostility. Thanks for "listening!"


Edited by Pudgie's mom (09/20/07 06:57 AM)

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#215789 - 09/20/07 09:19 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: LoRaXspeek4keets]
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Lora:

I'll confine myself to addressing the points you made to me, because there's way too much other stuff going on in this thread and it's confusing me a little.


Originally Posted By: LoRaXspeek4keets

But there are so many other aspects of black culture to be proud of--don't you think it's interesting that the most widely emulated aspect is that of blacks in a poor economic position?


Forstarters, I don't see why economic status has anything to do with it. I don't believe that those in a higher economic position necessarily have more worthwhile things to say than those in a poor economic position. If you're talking about "high" culture versus "low" culture, then it's interesting, maybe, but certainly not surprising. That's pop culture for you. Crappy reality TV shows are more popular than Sakespeare or Beethoven, aren't they?

Maybe we could say that there's a " lowest common denominator" element in pop culture which makes it so appealing to so many...you don't have to think about it too much. I could talk about the quality of pop culture and the direction it seems to be headed, but I won't because it will make me sould old. You look quite young from your picture, so maybe you should wait a few years before you start sounding old. wink

Originally Posted By: LoRaXspeek4keets

And I don't think this is flattering. Should my mother be thanking pop culture for thinking that the way she had to grow up was cool? I don't quite know how to explain this.


Okay, I'll try to explain what I mean. Your mother's story, from what you've told here, doesn't sound to me like a sad story. On the contrary, it sounds like an affirming and inspirational story. She grew up in difficult circumstances, worked hard and was able to lift herself up and offer her daughter a good education. I grew up in relatively fortunate circumstances, but I have some memories I'm not very fond of, and others I am. That's life, I guess. Everybody has sad stories and happy stories. I imagine that the ghetto, like anyplace else, has negative stories and positive stories, scary stories, funny stories and just plain silly ones, too.

I don't have much experience with the ghetto, but I've lived in developing countries in South America and Africa. I've been in India and other places where there is much poverty, probably more acute poverty than that of inner cities in the US.

Yeah, poverty sucks, but if I have to think about Africa or India or South America, my recollection is primarily that these places are happy places. Happy in the sense that people there smile, sing, laugh and love a lot...probably more than people in most millon-dollar neighborhoods I've been to.
That's the human spirit. There is joy in spite of suffering, and there is beauty in the middle of the s**t. Money won't necessarily make you happy.

So, sorry for being long winded, but my point is: when one tells a story of life in the ghetto or any other poor place, I don't believe one is necessarily obliged to present the people who live there as being pitiable. I don't believe that it's necessarily offensive to the people who live in those places to portray their lives in a manner which is more positive, lyrical, humorous or even "cool". We shouldn't forget that life in those places is tough, but that story is also told and I'm sure most people are aware of it. Not too many of those kids who wear baggy clothes and talk "ghetto" would choose to move to an actual ghetto, I'm sure.

Originally Posted By: LoRaXspeek4keets


Early rap tends to represent the fonder memories, while current rap tends to glorify the bad things--the crime, the drugs, and the role of women.


Yeah, I can see that. I'm not much into the gangsta rap myself, but hey, some people like it. I do think a lot of its' appeal is probably with teenage males, and it's precisely the sensational, the shock value, and the macho posturing which makes it appealing to them. Just to look at some of the videos, and it's guys who ride around in flash cars looking cool with lots of scantily clad women swooning all over them. Not everybody's cup of tea, I guess, but I was once a teenage boy myself so it's not that hard for me to see the appeal. shocked

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#215790 - 09/20/07 09:38 AM Re: "That is So Ghetto".... [Re: Capt. Haddock]
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...and on a lighter note, if we take the ghetto out of rap, maybe it will look like this:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=PYtFGriF6UY

lol.

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