not for younger ears, but read if you want. freedom of speech, so i cant stop you.


okay, so i have a small class. 3 boys, 11 girls. 14 kids altogether.

the boys are VERY perverted. they touch my friends...if you catch my drift, they talk about gross things and they even do other things that are disgusting.

but heres the thing. when they do this to my friends, they only laugh and say ew.

i think they like this. then they tell me they are so gross! xxx! they cant say one thing and like another...

so one day they went to the park and played jailbreak. the whole block was what they were playing on. so then on of the boys jumps on y friend and...does stuff to her...then she tells me and laughs about it!! what is wrong with her? he did this to her but she laughs about it? no. i cannot stand them anymore.

they never bother me cuz i act as if they arent even alive. i ignore them. they im me occasionally and i talk to them...random conversation, nothing big.

but not my friends. if they dont like them, why do they hang out with them? or kiss them? yea, thats right, they kissed them even tho they hate them.

i dont kno how to think about my friends anymore. i need input. i cant even talk to them without rolling my eyes.

im so lonely. my "friends" ignore me, and i have no one to talk to. i do talk to the guys in the grade below me, they arent as immature as my class is. but i seriously do not know what to do.

get new friends. if they do bad stuff, dump them.

Hopefully these girls will wisen up and realize it isn't ok. Is there at least one who is siding with you. It helps to have at least one friend who is on your side in a situation like this.

well its weird...they all sed that they are on my side no matter what...then our last year in this school, they go and do bad things...they were always so nice...but thats what u get for lettin ur kids date in 5th grade and for living in south jersey.

i thought that they all were on my side, but oh well...i am goin to stop talkin to them next year, cuz ill be in a different school thats alot bigger. but, i love em all to death, so i dont think thats possible.

sorry brittany. we are on your side, and i am glad that you are not giving in to peer pressre in a tough situation. i hope next year goes more smoothly.

I know how you feel, no worries. If they bug you that much, spend some time alone and try and make some new friends... all my friends had boyfriends when we were in elementary school, and I never understood it. You hold hands in school, that's a boyfriend?
haha, no thanks.

but yeah, just keep trying to make some more mature friends, becuase you're obviously much more mature than your current "friends"

sorry ur goin thru this sweety ... sheesh im so glad im not a teen anymore ... its hell

i duno .. my advice might be strong cuz im like way conservative and stuff lol but here it goes.

no person ... specially no man .. has a right to put a hand or other part on y ou without your permission ... which im sure you do know that ... and im glad you have enough brains NOT to participate in such sick "games"

these girls ... from what you said ... id wager have little or no self esteem or respect for themselves as women ...they need to stand up for themselves and their bodies.

if it was me id go and tell the teachers or other authority figures as this is something that should be dealt with and stopped, these boys need to be taught that it is NOT OK to do this stuff .. in the real world it can and often does result in jail time... or in them doing something very very serious to a female and thinking they have a right to do it...if they havent already done it.

it might seem like silly kid games ... but its very serious ...

good for you for taking a stand ... dont give in ... if your "friends" want you to degrade yourself then they arent your "friends" ... get my drift???

i know its rough to be the loner ... believe me i know ... but its better to be a loner than a degraded female... right???

these girls are probally doing it ... mostly out of a lack of self esteem and self respect ... but also as they think they kinda have to in order to be liked and loved ... and that is just sad ... tell them to stand for their rights and respect themselves .. that its dangerous behavior ... tell them in a loving way tell them you love them and you dont like to see them do such things ... and see what they say ... id rather be alone than have friends who act like that ... but thats just me

just stay strong ... and if any boy does that stuff with you dont blow it off as a game tell someone and do something sweety ... it is so not ok ... never ever ok for a guy to touch you or do stuff to or with you that you didnt ask for or approve of ...

:):)

helwa has given exeptional advice. i feel for you because i am in middle school. they guys here are only civilized because the rules, i assume, are stricter here. talk to your friends, maybe they will turn around. or just beat up the boys if they try that on you.

I am so glad to be out of high school, most of that imaturity stops after you graduate. then again, with some people it doesn't (but you don't have to see them ever again anyway!!)

hey there

you sound pretty young--correct me if i'm wrong, but i'm guessing the tail end of middle school? i was there not too long ago. i remember feeling left out of frankly, disgusted with a lot of my friends because of pretty much the same thing. the thing is, at that age--heck, what am i saying? i'm in college now and i still hear about this xxxx--things like kissing boys and 'hooking up' can make a girl feel really special for the moment. and even though it sounds like the boys are jerks, they might keep doing it because they become addicted to the feeling of specialness in the moment. i think that helwa is right--this seems to stem from self-esteem issues. and i am so glad that you have no succumbed to it. please stay that way. i may sound like your mom right now, but really, stay away from that kind of thing. it becomes a vicious cycle--you do it to feel better about yourself, but then you feel bad about yourself for doing it, so you do it again to feel better...etc. so don't get sucked into it. i know how you feel--jaja, my first kiss happened last year! (i was eighteen ) and all of my friends in middle school and high school would always be talking about their latest hook up and i'd think it was just so stupid. so you stand strong--you are not alone. and you can still be friends with these girls--just feel sorry for them in this regard because they have to lower themselves in such away. and you keep ignoring those dumb boys--they're not worth your time. boys are gross anyways. ew. :P

ps--i'm proud of you. i know how hard it is to be in your position. trust me, i always felt like i was alone and the odd one out, and i still do sometimes. it's not really that i'm conservative, i'm just old-fashioned. i think a kiss (and whatever else) should mean something. but that's me in the end, you always do what's best for you. >HUG!<