So Scott has taken a new job working from 9pm to 5am Mon thru Fri... But its gonna be so hard for me. Im not used to being away from him, and I am used to snuggling up with him during the night. I know he had to do it because the moving business in MI is HORRIBLE right now, and he was getting no work. But Im kinda depressed about it. He hasnt started yet, but Im dreading when he does. I will miss him... Its temporary, but temporary could be a year or more. *Sigh*
Anyone else with bf's, fiances, or husbands that work nights? And if so, how do you cope with it?
my husband used to work all day long and then nights too i hated it but we had no choice at the time ... we dont sleep in the same room but i couldnt stand him not being home ... it disrupted my whole routine ... i got used to it though .... and i used to go visit him at work at night sometimes lol .... its rough .... specially if ur used to sleepin next to each other ... at the time we had just moved on our own and we didnt even have cable lolz id be bored out of my mind haha
Im not necessarily used to sleeping next to him... Lol, he snores so loud so I dont always sleep next to him, but I am used to him just BEING here.
Its just kinda messing with my mind. I will miss him so much, and there will be days where I will have to go to work at like 1pm and he will still be sleeping... Then I will be home around 9, but he will be gone
yea its hard at first then you get used to it ... my husband got transfer to a city about a hour and a half away ... but it was a huge promotion so of course he took it ... we couldnt afford to move right then so he went on and stayed with his friend for 3 months almost 4 til we could move easily(financially) so i was like all alone constantly and i hated it at first ... lol then i got used to it and when we moved back together i was like my god why are you always here GO AWAY hahaha
Im just getting like waves of anger from it. It makes me so mad, but then again I know he has to do it. Im a brat I guess. Ugh, Im getting mad again. I gotta stop thinking about it.
It makes it worse cuz my best friend lives in Baltimore, so I cant just go to see him if Im bored/lonely. My child hood best friend is going through a divorce, and has a 2 year old and a full time job... So its hard to see her. Shes always busy. And my other friends are older (30's) with kids. Blah.
I work nights (or used to more often) and it's a hard routine to get used to. eric (my boyfriend) had a hard time adjusting to it. The hardest concept for him was letting me sleep all day (or at least part of it) after i got out of work. for me an overnight shift is either 4pm-4am, or 8pm-8am so i need to sleep when i get out. You'll adjust and get through it, at least it's only a few days a week and not every day. He can be normal Thursday and sunday with you at least.
See if there is a local bird club - the one in AA meets the 2nd thurs of the month at 7pm, I went and joined last week, each month there is a guest speaker, lots of neat bird owners, opportunities to help rescues and at bird shoes.
I work such weird different hours all the time that I wouldnt be able to join such a group. I also do read, and knit.
Why am I so mad about it anyways? I cant stop being so pissed. Im being mean to him, and I dont want to be. But Im just SO angry. I blame him... It is his fault he decided to be lazy and not finish school. And now Im stuck all alone at night.
Loc: Fond du Lac, Wisconsin
Well I hope I can help a little. My husband was always working days and now is on 2nd shift. He leaves for work before 2:30 in the afternoon and works until 11:30 or later. I know that is not all night but the rest of the time he is sleeping anyway. I did not think I would like this either but the longer he has been doing it the more I'm really not minding it. Granted there are a few things that we can't do like go out dancing which we really use to like but can't right now anyway because of my knees. So what have we done about it. Well for one thing I have a husband who seems to not have to get lots of sleep. He is usually up by 7am I'm the late sleeper because usually I don't fall asleep until after 1:30 or later. We get all of our shopping and other stuff done during the day that we use to do in the evening and I think I actually like it better now that I'm use to it. It sounds like you like a few of the things I do like knitting. I have been knitting for my grandchildren which is much easier to do when your by yourself anyway (no interruptions). I get to watch what I WANT TO on tv at night. I've gotten hooked on the forum again. Nacho keeps me company (our tiel) Call friends/family and visit a little Is there anything else that may interest you? I have a music keyboard and that is something else that occupies lots of my time. Sit down and maybe make a list of things YOU would like to do and then go for it. You get use to the different shift we may not love it but it does work. Let me know how it goes for you.