I still hold the door for ladies, stand when a lady enters the room during dinner and take my hat off for my elders and superiors but more than likely they will still hate me before the meal, conversation or greeting is over.
My doctor thinks it's funny because I always take my hat off when I go to shake his hand but I think he is a very elegant and accomplished gentleman. However if he was to insult my wife I would take my hat off and cold cock him so you see respect is a two way street.
Respect, in itself, is a form of "Religion" that very few people practice these days and even fewer people teach, preach or understand. Just Wednesday I was walking out of McDonalds and I held the door for an older lady(about 85 with a cane and sickly) who had a Girl(I assume Maiden) with her, I would assume who's age was about twenty. I held the door for the Crone but the Maiden thought I was hitting on her and gave me a dirty look(with her wickedly ugly face which was made for radio in the first place)and she said "I have a boyfriend." I was unable to help myself when I replied to her "Good for you, bad for him."
Forty years ago the girl would have understood that I was just doing what I was supposed to do and she would have been grateful I mean the old lady understood?
PS: It has been my experience that people in the northeast, east, southeast and midsouth(texas and plains states) are usually very schooled in practical mannerisms. New Englanders and Anyone from Europe usually has excellent manners and the men will usually consider themselves "Gentlemen" and the Women-"Ladies" however it is just my opinion that as I said before it is a dying "religion"/practice.